Marriage and Family : Parenting with Love and Logic

Parenting with love and logic sounds easy right? I can love my kids and I am definitely a logically person so this should not be a hard thing for me but it is.

We receive these innocence babies from heaven that end up turning into these giant, grumpy, smelly teenagers. We are mainly held responsible in how these little people turn out.

Are they respectful, are they compassion, are they kind? Each one of these children come to earth with distinct different personalities. President James E. Faust said " Child rearing is so individualistic. Every Child is different and unique. What works with one may not work with another."
This is so true. I have four children all with different personalities. I have two that are more high strung and very quickly to freak out and show their temper. It is almost impossible to reason with them when they reach that level of frustration. They are so challenging and exhausting and they take after me. I was like that as a child. I could remember freaking out over something small and later being embarrassed but not sure how to apologize. I often have to remind myself of this and try to be patient and forgiving because I know if I am not angry and as stern at them, then it is easier for them to come and apologize after they settle down and realize they overreacted. My other two are very laid back and easy going. When they get angry or cry, I pay attention because I know something is wrong, really wrong because it takes a lot to get them upset. It is also very easy to overlook them because they require so much less attention then my other two. I have to try hard to make them have an opinion and speak up, which is the exact opposite then the other two. I have to remind them to think of others and be less opinionated and selfish. I am constantly juggling the two versions of parenting between my kids.

In the Proclamation it says we need to rear children in love and righteousness... how do we achieve this in our homes .. we need to have-

Love, warmth, and support

Clear and Reasonable expectations for competent behavior

Limit and boundaries with some room for negotiation and
compromise

Reasoning and developmentally appropriate consequences and punishments for breaching established limits

Opportunistic to perform competently and make choices

Absence of coercive, hostile forms of discipline such as harsh physical punishment, love withdrawal, shaming and inflicting guilt

Models of appropriate behavior consistent with self-control, positive values and positive attitudes.

There are 3 different types of Parenting Styles that people usually identify with they are-

Coercive parenting- parents that demean and force good behavior from their children