Dating

Dating has changed a lot since I was single. I remember watching my older brothers and sisters getting married and I couldn't wait until my turn! Marriage is not at the forefront of young adults minds as much as it was twenty years ago. Why, you ask? What makes adults seem to want to take their time and seem to be closer to their thirty's before they are taking that step and getting married. One is the need to be established financially or finished with their education.  This is something that I understand and recognize how much easier life might have been if both my husband and I would have already had our educations and been established before we got married but again, we would have also been two different people who might not have found each other or been as compatible at that point of our lives as well if we had waited. In the 2009 address "Teaching the Doctrine Of The Family by Julie B. Beck she talks about the importance of building the family and helping to remind our youth to remember that forming families as a faith-based work. Something that Heavenly Father will bless them and help them to accomplish. One of the biggest thing that is getting in the way of the natural progression of dating and marriage in our culture are:

1. Lack of Social Skills- 

Technology is awesome but it comes with some effects to our youth and single adults who have grown up with it attached to their hand. Texting instead of talking has become the preferred way to communicate. People are more comfortable communicating through this technology rather then to visit with someone in the same room. It is hard to date if we don't have the social skills to do so.

2. Looking for "Mr./ Mrs. Right "-

 If you are lucky enough not to be technology growth stunted the next hurdle you have to jump is getting over looking and finding .......THE ONE!

In Elder David Bednar's 2009 conference talk he talks about creating this "perfect list" of what you want in a spouse. He tells us instead to focus on working on making ourselves become everything on that list instead. This is how you will have the best chances to find and attract a spouse that has those same characteristics.

I think when you consecrate on making yourself a better person and gaining as much knowledge about the gospel as you can, those things will fall into place and you will be in the right place at the right time. Heavenly Father will bless you as you as you work to improve yourself and make yourself ready for those blessings of marriage.